In our journey together through the concept of being "Unoffendable," We've been reflecting a lot on our own ability to remain unoffendable. We think that nothing really offends us. However, soon we realized that certain things—like comments about our family, our dog, our driving, or even our favorite football team—can indeed get under our skin.
What Offends You? Take a moment to think about the things that trigger you. What are they?
Over our discussions, we've delved deep into this topic. One important question to consider is whether it’s possible to live an unoffendable life, emphasizing the importance of quick forgiveness. Another key point is that while offensiveness is the currency of our culture, forgiveness is the currency of our kingdom. And remember, unoffendable people don’t react impulsively; they respond thoughtfully.
Turning the Lens Inward: When We Are the Offenders
Let’s switch gears and focus on a tougher topic: what do we do when we are the offenders? This might make us uncomfortable, but let’s lean into that discomfort together.
Self-Reflection: When you realize you've offended someone, how do you handle it? Do you apologize sincerely, or do you justify your actions?
The Reality of Church People and Offensiveness
It’s a hard truth, but sometimes church people can be among the most offensive. We’re often seen as judgmental, always needing to be right, and quick to say, "I’ll pray for you," as a way to avoid genuine conversation.
Self-Check: Have you ever been dismissive or judgmental in your interactions? How can you change that?
Jesus faced similar challenges with the Pharisees. They loved to add extra rules to appear more righteous. However, Jesus taught that it’s not about being right; it’s about nurturing relationships.
A Lesson from Luke 18:9-14: The Pharisee and the Tax Collector
In this passage, we see a Pharisee boasting about his righteousness, while a tax collector humbly asks for mercy. Jesus makes it clear that those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.
Personal Reflection: Do you see yourself more as the Pharisee or the tax collector? How does this impact your relationships?
Building Relationships Over Being Right
Social media often pressures us to present a perfect image, but people are drawn to authenticity. For instance, a woman battling cancer might inspire others not by her flawless posts but by sharing her genuine struggles and faith.
Engagement Question: How can you share your authentic self to inspire and connect with others?
Practical Steps to Becoming Unoffendable
Apologize Sincerely: A genuine apology can mend relationships. Avoid justifying your actions. Have you ever given a half-hearted apology? How did it affect the relationship?
Practice “Me Too” Instead of “You Ought To”: Sharing your struggles can make others feel less alone. When was the last time you shared a personal struggle to support someone else?
Seek Understanding Over Winning: Focus on understanding different perspectives instead of proving you’re right. Think about a recent disagreement. Did you prioritize understanding the other person?
Following Jesus’ Example of Humility
Jesus washed the feet of his disciples, including Peter who denied him, Judas who betrayed him, and Matthew, a tax collector. This act of love and humility, even in the face of betrayal and denial, sets a powerful example for us.
Life Application: How can you show love and humility in your interactions, even when you feel offended?
In John 13, Jesus instructs his disciples to love one another as he has loved them. This love is how people will know we follow him. It’s not about being right but about loving deeply and sincerely.
Final Reflection: Which of these steps can you start practicing today to build stronger, more loving relationships?
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